Much of what is considered "good" in little girls is considered downright repulsive in little boys. Physical timidity or hypercautiousness, being quietly "well behaved", and depending on others for help and support are thought to be natural - if not outright charming - in girls. Boys, however, are actively discouraged from the dependent forms of relating, which are considered "sissyish" in male children. Colette Dowling
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There is a lot of pressure put on little boys to be not only physically strong but also quiet, tough and independent. When little boys are encouraged to be quiet and depend on others for support they are perceived as sissyish. Boys are supposed to stand up for themselves and not cry if they don't want to do something.

Source: The Cinderella Complex: Womens Hidden Fear Of Independence

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